Wednesday, 1 September 2010

White Male Chinese Female Relationships and Interracial Marriage

Explores the rising number of interracial marrriage's in the UK & USA & why the Chinese Community should be concerned about the statistics.

There is an assumption that China's gender imbalance does not apply to the immigrant Chinese living overseas in the UK and USA, that the gender ratio's are more equal than China, but this is a misnomer, the numerical male:female ratio's maybe more equal, but the availability ratio's are as unbalanced as they are in China.

UK Census 2001 (Rounded figures)
All Chinese Male Marriages. % married  interracially   = 14%
All Chinese Female Marriages. % married interracially = 30%

US Census 2006 (exact figures)
All Chinese Male marriages. % married  interracially = 10.5%
All Chinese Female marriages. % married interracially = 18.5%

UK marriage ratio for XM/CF is double that of CM/XF (30% vs 14%), there is a shortfall in the number of Chinese females available for Chinese males to marry in the UK, therefore to reach equilibrium, some Chinese males must seek a bride who is non-Chinese and/or a non-British. Indeed, recently in the USA,  there has been a rising trend in Asian American's marrying Foreign Raised Asians, its predominantly Asian American females doing this, but this further reduces the available Chinese American female pool for ABC males. In the UK, I know of a few cases where BBC male's have taken a bride from China, this breaks out a comical caricature of Asian women wanting to emigrate to the West, the most comical are those seeking White Males. It goes something like this...
Asian Female... "I hate my race, my third world country sucks, my government sucks, it is my dream to emigrate to a developed world country, I can't go to the west if I marry a chinese man. I can't get a rich tall handsome Asian man, so I want a white man who will get me a ticket out of here. Any White pervert man will do, I don't care if his waistline is wider than grand canyon."
White Male... "I'm too unfashionable, ugly and nerdy to get a good looking white woman, so I hit on any Asian women I can find instead even going all the way to Far East because they're submissive and they all look the same just like that girl in that movie that I watched last night, they love me long time too. I am a asiaphile fetisher."
What do the statistical figures show?

The census 2001, 30% figure is 10 years out of date, the next census is due in March 2011 and although the new figure is expected to be higher than 30%, there is not even a flicker of concern from the Chinese community. Reasoning can be attributed to the quantitative dual-effect of Mainland Chinese immigration in the last decade. On the one hand, the huge influx of Mainland immigration has artificially kept the interracial marriage rate in check, to give the impression it is not growing exponentially. It is comparable with America, American statistics  show  that Chinese females who are married to their own race are twice as likely to be Foreign Raised than American Raised. The UK is no different, the 30% figure is mostly comprised of BBCs rather than FOB's. It's not inconceivable for the rates of marriage between 'BBC Females/Non-Chinese Males' to be as high as 60 or 70%,  after all by analogy, for marriages involving American Raised Korean women, 77.5% are interracially married to American Raised  men and in terms of marriages for American Raised Chinese women, 55% are married interracially to American Raised men.

In the UK, BBC's ( only account for 28% of the British Chinese population, a  huge number of  BBC Females are marrying non-Chinese Men to reach the overall percentage of 30% for all marriages involving a Chinese spouse. Despite the fact the British Chinese population has doubled since the 2001 Census from 247,403 to estimated 500,000, the interracial marriage rate is still rising, this suggests since 2001, the development of a new trend, a growing number Foreign Raised Chinese women marrying interracially following the same footsteps as BBC females.

Chinese males do not necessarily seek White females but other non-Chinese Asians, whereas Chinese females seem intent on seeking White males
From the US figures...

13.9% of Chinese American females are married to White Males
5.3% of Chinese American Males are married to White females

4.5% of Chinese American men are married to non-Chinese Asian
2.7% of the Chinese American females are married to non-Chinese Asian

As White men overwhelmingly account for Chinese interracial marriages, the American 13.9:5.3 ratio is actually very similar to the UK figure of 30:14.

Many xM/CF couples are unmarried.

The UK Census figures are for marriage and exclude unmarried 'co-habiting' couples. Marriage rates in the UK are quite low, it is common to find inter racial offspring living in unmarried households, they are not calculated under  marriage statistics but co-habitation. I have been unable to locate co-habitation figures, but cohabiting ratios ought to be higher for Chinese females than males. Its a plausible reason why 'visually' on the streets, the ratio of XM/CF vs CM/XF couples appears be much higher than the UK Census marriage ratio. Personally I dont know any Chinese males who have been co-habiting with Non-Chinese Females for a long period without marrying, the same cannot be said of Chinese females who are devoid of such burdens of 'carrying the family name' and  its responsibilities, theorectically enjoying greater freedom to choose what they do with their lives, whether they end up having as much choice or not in practice though...that's another story.

Are Chinese Women Who Date White Guys...Self-haters?

There is this idea that some self-hating Asian girls are so adverse to Asian men, not only do they refuse to date them but join in with white people (usually White Men) and degrade them. Chinese women are notoriously prone to whining about their boyfriend, husband or son or family etc, its not uncommon for them to openly make a degrading comment about random people. A female friend of mine is prone to this behaviour, whenever she meets another Chinese woman, she deliberately enquires about her husband just to  gossip about him, in full view and ears of  her husband sitting next to them. This behaviour occurs when the Chinese female is comfortable with her Chinese surroundings, but she will behave very differently in the company of White people, she won't dare behave the same way, unless  its a westernised Chinese girl who has a  comfortable social circle that is predominantly white or a white boyfriend, if it is racially motivated, i.e she is heavily influenced by racial stereotypes created by westerners, arguably it is self-hatred, but generally Chinese women are apolitical and have less patriotic pride than their male counterparts.

 I hear some Chinese girls say...

"I'm not looking to marry white guys but want to date white guys just to show Chinese guys."
This is a recurring theme, but what are Chinese women trying to show us? Are they bored with their LV bag and need  a white guy as a new fashion accessory on their arm? Were they rejected by Chinese guys and need to show them that white guys wont reject Shengnu? Obviously, these girls have issues. I will highlight a couple of perceived issues.

1. Assertion that power and rights are unequally distributed in favour of Chinese men, Chinese women are subjugated, the West is a representation of liberation.

This stems from their upbringing and exposure to western lifestyles and values. Many have issues with their negative perception of what Chinese culture stands for, their elders (Zhang Ziyi is a good example had issues with her parents) are starting point, notably the patriarch, overbearing older brothers or uncles who are considered too controlling, misogynistic (even Asian feminists constantly highlight footbinding, wife beating with domestic and sexual abuse to spread the propaganda that Asian men are evil), hypocritical or chauvinistic whilst maintaining the power and freedom to do what they want, whereas women have to fulfil filial duties, highly pressurised to marry and give birth to a boy rather than girl, they feel a sense of injustice, they want to be 'liberated,' feminist liberation is synonymous with the west, but this doesn't necessarily mean dating western men, western influenced Chinese men may suffice.  Typically, such a woman is an overseas born Asian or she was born in the far east but living in the west or has lived/studied in the west for a period and was seduced by the openness and freedom of the West, she thinks along the lines of 'hakk fu'...
"a woman is blamed for failure in relationships whereas a man can have sex with many women, but women who do the same are called sluts, its a double standard,  " 
They're expressing a misconstrued jealousy of Chinese men, stemming from a misconception that Chinese society tolerates men who have mistresses in Shenzhen, but aren't so sympathetic if a Chinese woman does the same. In other words, she wants to do what liberated western women do or what she believes Chinese men do...but without the criticism or the stigma.

Here is an opening excerpt from an article on WM/CF relationships written by a Chinese woman (not a BBC) from British Chinese website Dimsum (the website is jammed full of self-hating Chinese female contributors who have non-Chinese partners). From the horse's mouth....

"For many Chinese men, it’s an honour to have a blonde girlfriend, but it’s a crime for non-Chinese guys to steal their Chinese girls. Not long ago, it was sometimes considered a disgrace for Chinese girl to date a foreign boyfriend. Maybe it is still taboo for some, but there are certainly more and more free-spirits joining this mixed relationship club, such as Zhang Ziyi."
Chinese women wrongly assume they are treated as inferiors and don't have the same equality of opportunity to date westerners. Statistically however, the opposite is in fact true. Chinese Female interracial marriages are double that of Chinese males in the UK, and there is an even smaller sub-number of Chinese males who have blonde wives, its not even a  logical comparison. To liberate themselves from the perceived subjugation of women within Chinese society and the shackles of traditional confucian piety, among these types of women at least, lies a propensity to move, the target destination is a highly westernised live, to work, to study to retire etc. Its a belief that only by living in the West or adopting western values or being  in the company of westerners can they be free, open and treated as  equals. Whereas in the past, Chinese men migrated to provide a better living for his family back home (his wife would follow him later), modern Chinese women are not doing the same, the modern Chinese woman is unattached, she is emigrating only for herself  to disconnect herself from their family in the Far East.
2. Passport hunting Girls in the Far East. They think their own country sucks, so the grass must be  greener on the other side.

This behaviour is observable from Chinese women in the Far East, skirting over the border into Hong Kong from the mainland to give birth to a child to acquire Hong Kong quasi-citizenship. 32,653 babies were born in 2010 in Hong Kong to mainland Chinese women who were not married to Hong Kong husbands, over a third of Hong Kong's births In their opinion, the western most developed countries are the most liberated and economcially beneficial, the glistening foreign passport.

The current fashion trend in China is a pursuit of anything foreign or western, £4.5bn of British goods were exported to China during the first 8 months of 2010 alone, they pile into the Shanghai Expo, its the globalisation effect. A social clue are the rapidly improving standards of spoken and written English in the Far East. Many settled immigrants in the UK speak poor English, they're not Anglophiles, rather they emigrated out of economic necessity, it is in contrast to the types of cunning females who want to or choose to study in the west, live in the west, work in the west, emigrate to the west and push for the top, no actions pertaining to this class of female is incidental, rather its all part of a master plan, like Wendy Deng who migrated to the US and had an affair with her mentor some 30 years her senior, she went onto marry and divorce him to become the third wife of media tycoon Rupert Murdoch.
Famous Self-hating Chinese Wendy Deng with her husband Rupert Murdoch (the worlds most successful tax evader) and their mixed race kids 
There is a relationship between fluency in the English language and acculturated self-hating tendencies. Language attrition occurs with the greater use of English resulting in the lesser use of Chinese, a greater use of English is indicative of greater time spent interacting with westerners which will increase the likelyhood of them adopting their western culture and values.
Mainland girls perceive some White guys as "English gentlemen." In my experience, English men cannot separate their right hand from a pint of beer, their nose from a line of coke and their left hand from a copy of Loaded. The myth springs from an imagined idea that England is the land of fairness and equality, the 'English gentleman' is personified in literary fiction and the silver screen. Its the 'White knight' effect. Western produced films about China eulogize foreign protagonists and their heroic acts of exemplar courage saving these poor helpless Chinese from death or a life of misery. Look no further than the recent films, John Rabe, even  films of a balderdash nature 'The Karate Kid,' a Chinese girl is in awe of the heroic foreign kid against the wicked Chinese males.

Many Chinese women are naive and do not understand English cultural/racial stereotyping, they have no concept of "Asian doll syndrome," or "Chinaman" as a racial slur. They believe what they want to believe about the west and are blind to negative comment or criticism of the west, if the grass is always greener on the other side...the white knights must be too.

3. Failure To Attract A Suitable Wealthy Asian Man

Few reject their own race without reason, it is a natural first choice, failure to find a suitable partner causes the mind to stray. Chinese women are notoriously materialistic, engrained is an expectation a husband will provide for her (even for her extended family in some cases), spurious surveys state that 60% of mainland girls want to marry a man from a rich family. If they're unable to attract a rich Chinese husband, they will ensue the next richest suitor, so who will that be? Black men? No, Black men are impecunious, of course its White Western men. White Western men are perceived as better educated, wealthier, modern, less chauvinistic than their Eastern counterparts, even though in real terms in the USA at least, Asian men are the highest income earners on average, not that Chinese women are unaware of this. However, in the UK, British Chinese aren't as successful as their Asian  American counterparts. Despite the fact that British Chinese students have been consistently outperforming all other ethnicities in the UK for over a decade at pre-university level, with Chinese females outperforming Chinese males, it means little in real terms as it has been documented that relative to their educational grades, Chinese females are the most underachieving and discriminated ethnic group for employment, many struggle with their career. I know many that do not have a proper career despite being well educated, they end up becoming a tai-tai living off their husbands income, which is ironic given that they married a westerner in the first place to liberate themselves or maybe that was the ulterior motive for many of time, they want an easy peaceful troublefree life just shopping, especially after they've married or had a child.

Chinese women who turned their back on the Far East by either emigrating to the west and/or marrying western Caucasian men are symptomatic of  transnational attitudes that hold no allegiance to their own native country or their host country, they will go wherever, to the UK to be educated, to another country for employment, then finally go to Canada for retirement, like parasites seeking a new host, if the host country is no longer viable, don't complain, don't protest, rather stealthily search for a new host by emigrating. Some argue it is the nature of the southern Chinese as historical seafaring communities that are resistant to change and are used to migrating, globalisation empowers them to do this in greater numbers and intensity than  before. What we are seeing from some modern Chinese women, who now in theory have more freedom than ever before, is not just conspicuous consumption, but conspicuous breeding too.