Friday, 4 February 2011

I'm Not Racist But...I Have a Preference!

Remember that old nugget...
"I'm not racist...but...(FILL IN THE BLANK)."
Political correctness has moved racial denial onto a new post-modernist level...
"I'm not racist but I have a (racial) preference." Or "I'm not racist, I just don't find Black women attractive."
This form of denial is amusing, upon what foundation are they being judged? Is it their personality? No, it's their race. Giving preferential treatment to White women over Black women is discrimination based on race. Racism takes many forms, the non-overt effects of passive discrimination (i.e, ostracism and rejection etc) are the most annoying, one can neither see it nor hear it, but can feel it.

Recollecting my days at university, it was segregated into cliques along the lines of class, gender, race, religion etc. FOB Chinese were in a group, French students were in a group, Oxford graduates were in a group, even a visiting lecturer commented on our visible segregated social circles, he referred to the Asian group at the front as the "Asian contingent." Prima facie, in the west, it is not always apparent how stratified or segregated White people are, however, Asian's are targeted because of their indifferent physical appearance. So its stated by White's..."Asian's are always in a group and stick to their own kind, they don't integrate." Indeed,  FOB Asians arrive at a UK university from Hong Kong and seek out other FOB's from their own country to form a clique and expand their Chinese social circle by joining the Universities,' but in conversation with other white students, finding out where they're from etc, its apparent that they are racially and/or ethnically segregated too. It’s far easier to discriminate on race than most other factors and people do it all the time.

Attraction works in the same way, A makes a personal judgement about B and rejects B, no one will know why A made those judgments, if A is accused of racism, A will not admit it, nobody wants to be classed a racist, therefore excuses are made to circumvent the issue, "I'm not a racist, it's a preference" saves the face of closet racists. This country is sensitive about the ‘R’ word, we cannot have a sensible debate, it’s verboten, so people just walk around ignoring people they don't like without saying it to their face, the UK is a strange place to live with this enforced PC.
I recall a conversation I had with a White British girl...

Girl: I'm not racist, I have date guys of other races
Me: Would you date an Australian Aborigine who cannot speak English? Would you date a Pakistani national who was a Muslim and wanted you to wear a burka and move to Pakistan with him?
Girl: (pauses, goes silent then says) maybe
Me: Maybe? You mean NO don't you? You paused because you realised its racist to say 'no,' so you said 'maybe' to appear not racist.
Girl: But I'm not racist, its a preference!
Me: ah, that doesn't mean youre not racist, just less racist than someone who only dates their own race.   

In law, the meaning and definition of racial discrimination has a wide meaning and includes preference:
the term "racial discrimination" shall mean any distinction, exclusion, restriction or preference based on race, colour, descent, or national or ethnic origin which has the purpose or effect of nullifying or impairing the recognition, enjoyment or exercise, on an equal footing, of human rights and fundamental freedoms in the political, economic, social, cultural or any other field of public life.
United Nations Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Racial Discrimination

The law does not permit a bar/pub to exclude Muslims or black people or Asian people from entry and it must serve them a drink, however the White people inside the bar are under no legal obligation to talk to them nor engage in conversation with them. Generally, the law doesn't like to interfere in social relations, so you are free to ostracise, racially discriminate or 'have a preference' for whoever you like when it comes to friendship and dating etc.

Marriage is rather more serious than dating, many may consider dating interracially, but would they marry interracially? Would they want interracial children? Can they cope with  religious, language and cultural indifference? Would their parents or relatives approve of an interracial marriage? The reality is that there is a huge gulf between dating and marriage. Here is an example from the USA.

In the US, White men date interracially more than White women. The statistics are from a GALLUP POLL 2005, the stated margin of error is +/- 7% points.

White Men - 25% have date black, 30% have date Hispanic, 27% have date Asian
White Women 24% have date black, 28% have date Hispanic, 9% have date Asian

Compare this with 2006 US National Census Bureau's Marriage statistics...

0.11 % of White men are married to Black female
0.6% of White women are married to Black male
0.34% of White women married to Asian male
0.52% of White men are married to Asian female 

There is a huge difference in statistical percentage points between dating and marriage.

Another example, UK ICM poll 2007 uses a small sample of 235 18-33 year old British whites.

Would you consider dating an asian person / a black person?
83% white people would consider dating someone who is black
78% white people would consider dating someone who is asian

When it comes to marriage would you only marry someone of the same race as you, or would race not matter?
87% white people wouldn't mind mixed race marriage
9% white would only marry someone from the same race

Asian in the UK is defined as Pakistani, Indian, Bangladeshi etc, does that mean 78% of White British girls wouldn't mind wearing  a burka and marrying a Pakistani Muslim? These surveys have to be taken with comedy effect. People don't want to sound racist, so they will give the answer that they believe is the  politically correct thing to say, without acting on it. Compare this survey with Predominantly American, there are a lot of Brits registered, it uses a much larger sample...

Is interracial marriage a bad idea? (sample size: 283,000)
whites  YES =7%  No =93%

Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own race?  (sample size 750,000)
Whites 45% said yes. 55% said No.

It is indoctrination into believing they're "not racist" when in fact having a preference means the opposite. Their preference is for whites, their own race, when they have a choice...their first preference for their own race prevails. When they have no choice or the options available for whites are so dreadful, they will then consider the second, third, fourth choice etc, this is why ethnic minorities on White dating sites usually don't have much success, they are low in the pecking order.

For a national picture, according to 2001 UK Census, under 2% of white population were married interracially. If its argued its the result of  a low ethnic minority population, if hypothetically the UK allowed 20million muslim immigrants into the UK does that mean 78% of white people will want to marry them? Most whites have never been inside a muslim's house before, let alone date one.

Dating is one thing, marriage is another. Dating Surveys are full of lies, its common to misrepresent the numbers of sexual partners they've had etc. Only  marriage statistics are facts. You can "mess around" with whoever you like and no one needs to know, you don't have to worry about what people think, your parents don't even need to know about how many sexual partners you've had or what race they were, or what sexual orientation they were or indeed how old they were etc. However, when it comes to making a serious decision about who you spend your life with, it no longer becomes a private affair but a public one. Despite what people say, actions speak louder than words, just because you are open to dating interracially doesn't necessarily mean you will nor does it mean you want to nor does it mean you will end up marry interracially.


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  2. this is a major issue but ill sum it up as usual: East asians need to love themselves more and stop the self hate.

    I think its every individuals right not to want to racially intermix or not.

    The subtext that i read into your above article is not so much racism but 'why arent east asian men fanciable by white girls'. it doesnt help with the media stereotyping but like i said above, it also comes down to self-love. hating white media manipulation is viable only if you love yourself first.

    on a personal scale its who you fancy. its just a shame that it can be that east asian women are such white worshippers that asian men try to get white women out of an act of revenge rather than any personal attraction.

  3. Everyones racist yo.

  4. they analyzed race and dating in an OKcupid trend report. I dont know if you've seen this yet as its information is only gleaned from its online database of users who reside predominantly in the US. It came out in 2009.

    1. yes theres a reference to it in the article already.

  5. I think you're committing the fallacy of equivocation with the term "preference". What "preference" means in the codified definition of racial discrimination is different than what it means in the context of the personal matters -- e.g., romantic and sexual preference.

    So yes, it would be "racist", for instance, to prohibit Asians from entering your restaurant; or to give preference to hiring Whites over Blacks with the same qualifications; or to pay higher wages to employees of a certain race for the same job. But it's NOT racist to be attracted to members of one race, in general, more than others (think about how horrible it would be to be forced to marry someone you are not attracted to). As the saying goes, attraction is a dictator rather than a democracy.

  6. Stupid in today's world everything is racist thankfully I live in a country with no PC bullshit

  7. Your enemy is not the white, asian, black, italian, japanese, conservative, liberal, or other "pretend" opponent. It is those that have programmed your beliefs through their ownership of the media into not knowing they are behind all your problems. The "divide and conquer" is their means of controlling your actions. Your are divided from those that are good, productive, and beneficial by being convinced that they are the cause of problems. Who really controls peoples media corrupting ideas, their poor education choices, their purchase and voting choices?? They are the hidden psychopathic criminals that use you by keeping you from uniting with the good and descent to defeat them. These evil ones are a small percentage in every race, religion, political movement, business, and government. .... "The TRUTH shall set you free."

  8. This entire blog is extremely racist. You hate on people of partly non ethnically Chinese heritage and imply that they are inferior to pure Chinese. You call Chinese women who date white men, "self-hating". They are not self hating, it's their choice. You're not the ruler of the world. You can't control what race Chinese women in the UK choose to date. Chinese are not the majority in the UK. Get that through your thick skull. If you believe that Chinese people in the UK should date other Chinese only, then you are a racist. You're not British, you're Chinese and a racist. Get out of Britain, and go back to China. I understand you don't behave like this when you're out in public, because if you did, you'd be killed or at least injured. It makes me sick that people like you exist in Britain.

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