BBC Marrying BBC? How Rare Is It?
A question was recently posed by a professional Chinese wedding photographer based in the UK.
"How do British Born Chinese get married? Any BBC have a wedding that they would like me to photograph?"
The question is amusing, one has never seen a British Born Chinese male marry a British Born Chinese female in the UK, its well known within the BBC community that BBC females and BBC males have a tendency to avoid each other. There are British Chinese marriage statistics by race and gender HERE, I have not been able to obtain specific statistics for BBC/BBC marriages, however social observation of our own community may provide some clues.
Recently, one attended a friend's kids birthday party full of inter racial couples with freaky looking mixed race kids with aberrant facial features and skin tone variations greater than that observed in the latest Cream Neutral Dulux paint collection. BBC (ethnic Chinese) are used to being an ethnic minority among Whites, but to be an ethnic minority among mixed race? Gosh, you need to experience it to fully appreciate the 'mudpie effect.' On the way home, I made a list of all the BBC that I personally know that are either seriously co-habiting long time, married or a single parent, the results were as follows ....
1) There are no BBC/BBC couples
2) There are no ethnic Chinese children, but 9 mixed race children
3) Only one out of the nine is an 'all Chinese' couple
Many had dated British Born Chinese when they were younger, however post-university and upon reaching the ‘settling down’ age, the lack of community for BBC’s, the lack of a progressive BBC culture/identity, the fact that BBC’s are overly assimilated with deep self-hatred issues in wishing they were 'white/black' and holding down jobs within the White community amidst White social circles (or multi-ethnic) takes its toll. The term British Born Chinese of the commonwealth generation is degenerating into a euphemism for inter racial breeding.
One can ignore statistical clues, but one cannot ignore reality when its on your doorstep, at least in my social circle. Whilst one can accept being a Chinese minority in a White community, we could well soon be a BBC minority in our own 'Chinese' community to Eurasian, Blasian and Chindian, in my opinion its no longer a 'Chinese' community. BBC? More like Bye Bye Chinese.